Saturday, June 16, 2012

Beware of those pebbles that drain your time & energy...

By sharing this personal examples I hope to illuminate for you more clearly how tolerating little distractions, clutter and incomplete "to dos" can siphon away your energy and hold you back.
Recently I took care of an annoying little problem that had been bugging me for a very, very long time. The wall sconces in my main bathroom had been on the fritz for a long time. The lights continued to flicker and go out. High-priced electricians were baffled. I ultimately decided the fixtures themselves needed to be replaced. So I bought new fixtures and ... stuck them in a storage room. I finally got those new fixtures installed after they collected dust for about 18 months.

Sad but true! I had been tolerating having dim, unsatisfactory lighting in my bathroom for about 118 weeks.
Not being able to see clearly when putting on my makeup in the morning. Feeling my energy drop when I entered the room and saw the 4 colorful wires sticking out of my mirror. Explaining to my kids that I ...just hadn't got around to getting someone in to install the new fixtures. The irony of wanting to be a light and inspiration in the world, but I was dragging my heels on bringing full light into my own space.

Fascinating all the lessons that can be revealed from these vignettes of everyday life! Here are a few lessons I learned from the "Bathroom Fixture Fiasco" that I'd like to share with you so that you can identify and kick any tolerations you are living with!

Lesson #1 -- Watch Out for the Pebbles 
Putting up with issues, relationships and situations that do not serve you tends to fall into two categories: boulders and pebbles. The boulders are the ones that are so obvious that even you know you need to address them somehow. Examples might be abusive relationships or a soul-sucking career. Boulders demand your energy big-time! Pebbles are the smaller, seemingly innocuous issues that don't look like much. They aren't as obvious that they require your attention.
Working with people who don't always do what they say, dealing with the pile of papers on your desk, or... repairing a light fixture in your bathroom. Don't fool yourself! Pebbles are quietly, and consistently, draining away your energy and focus and the cost can be huge. Plus, you spend time creating reasons or excuses as to why it's OK to put up with them.
"I'll get to that filing tomorrow, it's not a big deal!" or "I'll just avoid them so I don't have to tell them I'm not happy with their work." So pebble-sized tolerations can add up to major time and energy leaks. Think about the mountain climber. It's often easier to climb up or down the big boulders than it is to safely traverse slopes of pebbles and scree.

Lesson #2 -- Tolerations Reveal Subconscious Truths
There are true gems of wisdom when you uncover and handle the areas you've been putting up with that zap your focus. My light fixture escapade revealed there was a deeply unconscious part of me that was just fine with me NOT being in my light. "Hey", it thought, "You're safer when you're a bit harder to see because then you're not as visible a target for criticism." There was a part that actually liked a bit of inconvenience or suffering because I could keep myself in a "poor me" mentality.
Think of something you know you're ignoring and tolerating. What are the thoughts you use to keep it in place? Can you see where those same thoughts show up everywhere else in your life?

Lesson #3 -- Figure Out Your ROI
When you discover a toleration and need motivation to kick yourself into action, just consider your return on investment. How long have you been trying not to notice that your taxes aren't filed, or that your basement storage room is so full of clutter that it scares you?
I ran a quick calculation of the cost of my light fixture fiasco. If I assumed I lost at least 5 minutes a day because I was allowed my energy to be drained by this situation, this experiment in denial and procrastination cost me a walloping 225 hours! The cost of solving the problem? Just 5 minutes to make a call, 20 minutes to supervise when needed and $50.
Putting up with tolerations is never a good investment, particularly if you look at it on a return on investment. Your time, energy and talents are far too precious to waste. So let these lessons from my bathroom light fixtures serve as a cautionary tale for you!

Lessons From a Light Fixture- By Carolyn Ellis


Shradha Saburi said...

Good Morning Sir,
Another masterpiece!
many regards

vikram a g said...

good morning,

my weekend analysis on nifty

durga said...

master,yes it is is the mosquitoes that drag,nag,brag ,n drain us.shall we start by showing small acts of kindness albeit towards us?small and beautiful discourse.GOOD DAY.

Nilesh Patil said...

Good Afternoon Master & Friends

Sujatha said...

Goodafternoon sir and friends :)

May "saturn" come and sit on "subbarao's tongue" :D :) for the benefit of .......

Hari_Hyderabad said...

Good afternoon Master & JN family

Have a nice weekend

shriram said...

@sujata amma: Bismillah :-)

numchar said...

Fear and greed are pebbles or boulders in my life that drain my energy every day ....
As said need to be always objective ...but I find hard to practice.

numchar said...


You remembered Saturn on Shaniwar its going to happen :)
Shani never disappoints their followers.
Now strict TSL.

Manish said...

Good evening master and JN friends

Have a great weekend !

Amol Sharma said...

coming week is very much interesting.

have a wonderful trading week.

SANPOT said...

Good Morning Ilango Sir and and all blog mates.
Sir, thank you for the nice post.
Sir, tomorrow is the RBI policy. The markets are expected to be volatile and I find it very difficult to keep my focus on these particular days.
Pl guide me regarding this. I closed my long positions on Friday and not holding any position now.
Looking forward to your valuable advice.

Gita said...


Thanks for everything! Especially the 'soup for soul' on Saturdays !!

In my humble opinion, it is the Ending diagonal in play, the 5th wave from 4770.

Dramatic reversal ahead, as mentioned for the ending diagonal in Frost & Pretcher (page 25/139, in the free manual available), if the up move does not cross 5174 !!


Shradha Saburi said...

Mynac Said..
Gabbar's dialogue,"Jab tak tere pair chalenge tere yar ki sans chalegi Jab tere pair rukenge
yes! i can say
अगले वीक में जब तक निफ्टी ५१४० के उप्पर रहेगी तब तक बुल की सांस चलेगी

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